In the Future, Tense

May 8, 2010

The Mother’s Day Post

Filed under: politics,Uncategorized,writing life — carolynanderson09 @ 3:12 pm
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Tomorrow is Mother’s Day.  I hate Mother’s Day.

I am a mother.  I have a fabulous son who is a continuous delight to me, and being part of his growth into a full-blown human being is a wonderful thing.  Being a mother is an ever-shifting challenge, something that makes me laugh every day, and frequently both frightening and frustrating.  It adds a bastion to my life that I would not have imagined going into it.

But I hate Mother’s Day.

In a society where we claim to venerate the family above all, and do next to nothing to actually support healthy families, we have this day where everyone is supposed to buy the correct items, make the correct reservations, and bestow the approved amount of flowers and chocolate to display love.  If these things are not done, as on Valentine’s Day, nothing else that has been done all year counts.  Affection must be displayed on cue and with consumer goods.

The problem is, as a society we actually really don’t think much of mothers, or motherhood.  Here’s an exercise.  Count the number of TV series and movies you can think of with single fathers as heroic, caring characters, whether main characters, or supporting characters.  Now, count the number of TV series or movies with single mothers as heroic, caring characters.  Now compare that with the number of TV series or movies you can think of where the mother is the root cause of the main character’s problems in life.  Bonus points if the reason the character has problems because their mother worked.  Double bonus points if the mother enjoyed her career or was famous.  If you really want fun, you can go backwards and start adding in the number of literary portrayals there are of young men made gay by their mothers having careers and strong personalities.

Don’t give me a day of flowers and crowded resteraunts.  You want to show me that mothers are acutally appreicated, show me decent portayals of grown women with full lives who are not harridans who warp everything they touch because they once had a thought of something beside their children.

Until then, bah humbug.


October 17, 2009

A Fashion Industry Rant

Filed under: Uncategorized — carolynanderson09 @ 5:36 pm

This is a fashion industry rant.  Again, you have been warned.

Ralph Lauren has fired one of their models, a woman who is 5 ft. 10 in. and weighs 120 lbs. and has been in a large number of their ads for being too fat.

They seem to feel she should look like closer to the photoshopped version they released for an ad in Japan:

Ralph Lauren modelI keep trying to find the words to describe this image of starvation presented as glamor, this deliberate choice to present a woman’s beauty as only reaching publishable quality once she has been stretched and squeezed out of human shape and it fails me.

I know this isn’t new.  Everybody knows about the historical uses of arsenic, belladonna and white lead, about surgeries to have ribs removed and the ever-popular foot-binding.  Less well known is that Victorian women also had foot surgery to fit into the narrow pointy shoes that were popular at the time.

And I know the perennial excuse is they’re just selling fantasy.  But they’re not, because they sell the clothes that only fit the genetically lucky and the ones who have starved themselves to sickness.  Because their industry drowns women and girls in chemicals, drugs and self-help lies assuring them that no, really, this photoshopped fantasy is within their reach, as long as they spend enough money, starve themselves enough and think happy thoughts while they’re doing it.

It’s just plain disgusting.

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